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A Child's View of Potty Training

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Although parents often think of their own challenges when they potty train their children, what a child goes through during the learning process is even more daunting. Understanding your child's perspective on potty training will help you clarify your role as teacher and help your child reach success.

Life Is Unfair
As he sees it, your child is being required to give up part of himself when he goes to the bathroom in the toilet; it's something he has made, and he has to put it in an arbitrary and often inconvenient place. Using the bathroom means he has to interrupt the best part of his day, playing, for a disruptive and time-consuming activity. If his stools are hard —or if they have been in the past — the process may even be painful or uncomfortable.

Toilet Terrors
Then your child has to deal with the indignity — and even terror — of having his precious production flushed away, never to be seen again. The other things he makes are proudly displayed on the refrigerator. Why does this one have such a different destiny? This process raises some scary questions: Could the rest of him suffer the same fate? If he falls in, will the swirling noisy waters suck him down, too, never to be heard from again? Just where does it go, anyway? What's beyond the toilet bowl? Is there a monster down there, ready to grab his bottom at any second? (This last belief is nearly universal among children with older siblings, who are often all too happy to terrify their unsuspecting younger brothers and sisters.)

The Bottom Line
After he has successfully produced, he's forced to wipe his bottom (yuck!), and then wash his hands, a task very few children really enjoy. Then he has to struggle to pull his pants up correctly — without the elastic twisting and with one foot in each leg hole. It only gets worse if his trousers have snaps, a zipper, or buttons. (In their haste to get the job done and back to playing, most little boys quickly learn that pulling up a zipper can be a very risky proposition.)

If he has slightly wet or stained his underwear because he made a timing error, he has to either put it back on and hope the grownups don't notice or face the music. If they do notice, that will mean he's admitting partial failure, as well as letting himself in for looks of disappointment on the faces of those to whom this seems to mean so much.

He wants to please mom and dad, and he wonders if they'll still love him if he can't get this bothersome task just right. It was so easy to just have the diapers take care of it. Why all this worry and trouble now when life was so simple before?

All these things to remember, risk, and take time for —all simply to please those he cares about most. To him, it all seems so strange, complicated, scary, and full of chances to mess up. Putting it all together really is a tremendous accomplishment on his part. No wonder he'll feel so great when he masters potty training! Appreciate what he has done to please you and, ultimately, to feel good about himself.


 
 
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Time to start potty training? A good way to tell is to watch our children for certain behaviors and skills. No worries if it isn't the right time yet —” all kids eventually become potty trained! Check out this handy list of readiness signs.
Read Potty Training: Signs of Readiness