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Differences in Play

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While there are many similarities in the ways preschoolers play, it's the differences that are particularly interesting. One child may be enthralled by a dollhouse, while her cousin prefers trains; a classmate may revel in hitting a golf ball, while a neighbor would rather imagine that same ball to be a magical talisman left by a powerful wizard. Still, no matter how children play, their goal is the same: to understand the world around them and their role in it. By watching your child play, you can find out how she thinks, what she's learning, and how the world —— including you —— is influencing her. The window into these insights is play.

 How Adults Influence Play

 Boy Toys Versus Girl Toys: Getting Past Stereotypes

 Fantasy Versus Reality: Best of Both Worlds

 Getting Involved

How Adults Influence Play


Back in the 1970s, psychologist Phyllis Katz conducted what we now call the Baby X experiment. She put three toys in a room: a small football, a feminine doll, and a gender-neutral toy. Then she dressed a 3-month-old in an unadorned yellow jumpsuit and brought a series of adults (the subjects of the experiment) into the room to meet the baby. Some of the adults were told that the infant was a girl named Mary; others were told that the baby was a boy named Johnny. Most of the adults who thought the baby was a girl gave her the doll to play with. Most of those who believed the baby was a boy gave him the football.

This study sparked a lot of heated discussion about the need for gender-neutral toys, and gender stereotyping became the subject of numerous debates, magazine articles, and television programs. Nevertheless, when Dr. Katz repeated the experiment 10 years later, she got the same results. What's more, despite great efforts toward gender equality in recent years, if you walk into a typical American preschool, it won't be hard to guess which children will be brushing Barbie's hair and which will be crashing toy trucks.

Part of this preference seems to be genetic, a biological preference from birth for certain types of toys. In other words, there's some truth to the old saying that "boys will be boys" and "girls will be girls." But it's not a cut-and-dried difference between the genders. While many boys will have an affinity for trucks and the like, they're also likely to enjoy— —— and benefit from —— —playing with dolls.


Boy Toys Versus Girl Toys: Getting Past Stereotypes


Should you worry if your child desires or plays mostly with toys typically associated with his or her gender? Probably not. But do encourage your youngster to play with a variety of toys, including those usually linked to the opposite sex. Many children do this naturally by playing with a brother's or sister's toys. (If you have an only child, try to arrange occasional play dates with a youngster whose favorite toys complement your child's.)

If you have a daughter, you might also want to note that, in the short run, girls who play exclusively with "girl toys" (such as dolls) may be at a disadvantage to boys who play exclusively with "boy toys" (such as trucks) when they enter school. The real issue is not the toys themselves but the underlying skills they help young children master.

The fantasy play associated with dolls helps girls become sophisticated in skills used in interpersonal relationships, especially nurturing and empathy. These are wonderful and useful skills, of course. Unfortunately, kindergarten and elementary school teachers seldom acknowledge them as much as the mathematical and visual-spatial skills learned from playing with "boy toys," like blocks and cars. That's why it's a good idea to seek out ways for your child to play with both types of toys.


Fantasy Versus Reality: Best of Both Worlds


Another way in which children's play differs is whether it's based on reality (such as board games and sports) or fantasy (such as playing house or pretending to travel through time and space). Granted, much of play in early childhood involves make-believe. But there are tremendous differences in the amount of pretend play that children do. In general, firstborn and only children seem to do more fantasizing, perhaps because they spend more time alone. They're also more likely to have imaginary companions. But as with gender-stereotyped toys, it's important that children spend time engaged in both fantasy and reality.

Research conducted by psychologists Jerome Singer and Dorothy Singer at Yale University has found that children who do not play imaginatively are more aggressive and get into more fights with peers than children who do play imaginatively. Television may play a role in this. The Singers noticed that the more television young kids watched, the less imaginative they were in their play.

Having an active fantasy life also seems to help develop, or at least reflect, higher intellectual skills. When your child imagines that a golf ball is a magical talisman, he is learning to work with symbols. When he tries to decide what to do with his magical talisman (save the princess? fight the dragon? conjure ice-cream sundaes?), he is using fantasy to consider the implications of choosing different options. This is exactly the type of thinking skill preschoolers are struggling to master.

Fantasies are also an excellent way for a child to come to terms with things that challenge, frighten, or confuse him. For example, a 3-year-old who is upset by the noise made by a big truck can master his fears by pretending that the wooden block he's holding in his hand is an even bigger and scarier truck. By repeatedly crashing that truck into the floor, he gains a sense of control—not of the real truck, but of his fears.

Reality play, on the other hand, can help a child hone important social skills. A board game gives a preschooler practice taking turns. Early sports activities teach the basics of teamwork and shared responsibility.


Getting Involved


What can you do to help your child try new kinds of play? The simplest thing is to get involved. If you build a dollhouse (a cardboard box is just fine!) and start playing with it yourself, your son won't be able to resist. The same goes for your daughter when she watches you build something with blocks. Or take an imaginary trip to the jungle with a favorite stuffed animal, then bring home a soccer ball and start kicking it around the back yard. No matter what, don't miss an opportunity to play with your child. It can be one of the best parts of being a parent.



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