There comes a time when every new mom longs for actual, adult conversation to supplement the cooing and baby talk. That's where making mommy friends comes into the picture. Developing relationships with other new moms will not only help preserve your sanity but could also benefit your baby's development, by providing easy opportunities for your little ones to socialize and play together.
But how do you meet new mom friends when you're busy with your new baby? Turns out there are a few ways to go about it that fit nicely into any schedule.
Start early. You don't have to wait until your new baby is born to make new mom friends. Strike up conversations with women in your childbirth class or the mom-to-be whom you often see in the OB waiting room, for example. You'll be raising babies of roughly the same age, and you can experience parenting milestones together.
Hit the gym. This doesn't necessarily mean signing up for the next cardio workout series (although that's always fun, too). Going to mom and baby classes — such as yoga classes conducted with babies in tow — at the gym or exercise studio is a great way to meet other new moms in the area, all while your tot crawls around and gets extra tired for his next nap. It's a win-win for you both! Or you can pick a gym or studio that offers child care, and seize the opportunity to chat with other moms who are dropping off their little ones.
Head online. Not all new mom friend interaction needs to be "in person" (although it does help to swap stories face-to-face over coffee every now and then). If you find that it's difficult to meet people, groups with Web sites like Meetup.com and International MOMS Club (momsclub.org) can help connect you with other moms in your area. This way you can start your friendship online, and then continue it face to face once you get to know each other.
Orchestrate a playdate. If your child is in day care, enlist the help of her teacher to introduce you to new mom friends. Ask your child's caretaker if your tot has developed any close attachments to any of the other children in the class, and then ask that particular child's mom over for a playdate. While the babies are busy playing, you'll be busy making a new friend.
Be a playground regular. Once your baby is born, the park or playground provides an opportunity for your baby to get some exercise and fresh air — and for you to meet some great potential new mom friends. Aim to take your new baby to the park at least once a week, and go around the same time on the same days. This way you'll be likely to run into some other new moms who are on the same schedule. Strike up a conversation and there you have it — new mom friends, as easy as riding the swings.
It’s likely that your new mom friends' schedules are as hectic as yours, so don't stress if you find it’s difficult to find time to get together. To boost your odds of successful play dates, park hangouts, and more, aim to make your mommy social circle as large as possible.