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Potty Training: Signs of Readiness

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First, some perspective for frazzled parents: Every healthy child is successfully potty trained. In the long run, the age at which she masters these particular skills doesn't matter. It's not a reflection of your skills as a parent or your love for her. Doing it earlier doesn't mean she's smarter or more coordinated or will get into an Ivy League school.


But if you start potty training before your child is biologically and emotionally ready, you're both going to become frustrated and upset. It will also drag out the process because it's likely to turn into a battle of wills-a battle that parents never win. That's why it's a good idea to know the signs that she's probably going to be successful before you start.


Most children become potty trained between 18 and 30 months. However, some children still struggle with the skills when they're 4 years old. But if you look closely, your child will tell you with her behavior that she's probably ready to begin. For example:

  • Does she have bowel movements at a fairly predictable time? Does she let you know through words or behaviors that she's aware that she's having one?
  • Can she pull down and pull up her pants?
  • Does she show an interest in the bathroom and what other people do in it?
  • Can she walk over to and sit down on the potty by herself?
  • Has she started saying "No!" to you? Does she like to have at least some of her toys in certain special places? This shows that she's interested in controlling things in her environment.
  • Does she know what "wet" and "dry" mean?
  • Does she respond to praise and want to please you?


If your child shows most of these behaviors, she may be ready to begin. We can help you with some ways to start. Remember, never try to potty train a child during a time of stress, such as when your family is moving or going on vacation, or when the child is sick. If it doesn't seem to be working, take a break and try again in a few weeks or months. It will happen; just give it time.




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    zoebird30
    (Ward, UNITED STATES)
    Updated 01/22/12 - 11:50 p.m.
    My 15 month old son does only 1 or 2 of the things listed. I have been taking him to the potty for about 3 months everyday at least once a day. Nothing seems to help. He just doesn't want to sit there. Sometimes i just get frustrated. I take him to the potty when he makes the potty face, and nothing so we get up and a few mins. later yep he has potted in his pull up. Tonight he actually went to the bathroom door, it was a little late but i am seeing progress now. At least he knew he had went in his pull up. I sure hope this means we are on our way to being Potty Trained.
    mJom
    (Acworth, UNITED STATES)
    Updated 01/11/12 - 11:06 a.m.
    For meisha6977 and any other moms who are getting down about potty training...I know "don't worry" doesn't help, but it is really the best answer. There are very few things these little ones can control, but potty and eating are two. This is why these seem to be the biggest battles. I have an 18 yr. old, a 15 yr. old and a 20 month old. (Yes, you read these ages right!). I can tell you that my oldest son was a very strong-willed boy and no matter what I did, he would not cooperate with the potty training. To make matters worse on a first-time mom, I was getting a lot of pressure from my MIL (who, by the way, was not a routine caregiver, so it was not like she had to deal with the pee and poop.) Finally, one day at 3 yrs, and 7 mo. he announced, "Me go potty now." We still had work to do, but it was his idea and made things go so much smoother. He started school, graduated HS and is now a college freshman. And guess what? He knows how to use the POTTY!!!! I did not let the pressure of others affect my efforts on my second son and things went smoother, and have certainly learned a lot about parenting for #3. Do it your way and follow your child's lead. I can promise you all that they will not walk down the aisle in a pampers cruiser!! Remind yourselves daily of all the things they are doing "ahead of schedule" and you will see that some things come quickly and others take time. Just like it is for us for the rest of our lives.
    Meisha6977
    (Springfield, UNITED STATES)
    Updated 01/07/12 - 06:15 p.m.
    For those parents whose child is not ready: I've been told "do not worry".... My son is almost three and an only child. He shows no signs or interest in potty training. He still calls himself a baby when we try to say he is a "big boy". He freaks out when we sit him on his potty chair. I believe he doesnt want to take the time or break from playing to sit on the "potty". I read all these comments on children being potty trained and it does get me down but I have to remind myself that it will come in time. For other parents like this please feel you are not alone.
    cecycaty
    (El Cajon, UNITED STATES)
    Updated 12/19/11 - 04:26 p.m.
    Thanks pampers! Something worth forwarding to family and friends.
    cfallon107
    (bellevue, UNITED STATES)
    Updated 12/15/11 - 09:39 p.m.
    My son liked to look at the potty and try to flush before he turned one. The week before his 1st birthday I started to sit him on it once a day and sing a song and he started to pee the first week. He is 15 months now and I take him potty every 2 hrs (except at night), he loves to sing and clap when he goes. I haven't had to change a poopy diaper in over a week!!! I really recommend singing and clapping as rewards.
    jennicole2012
    (muskegon, UNITED STATES)
    Updated 12/01/11 - 09:50 p.m.
    my son can do four maybe even five of these list i am so happy he is about 32 months old (2 years old) almost 3 in apri 9 my son is getting under pans for christmas so i can start potty training him yeah this is going to be fun thanks for helping me
    hbezio
    (Essex Junction, UNITED STATES)
    Updated 09/28/11 - 01:39 p.m.
    My daughter will be 2 in a few days. Even though she is doing 3 of the things on the list, she refuses to sit on her potty. She will use the pull-ups, but hasn't gotten the hang of taking them on and off by herself. Hopefully it is just a faze!
    CharityW
    (Columbus, UNITED STATES)
    Updated 09/17/11 - 05:22 p.m.
    I wish we could forward these articles via email. I'd love to pass this one on.
    oakfamily
    (Fairfield, UNITED STATES)
    Updated 09/06/11 - 04:14 p.m.
    Thank you for the advice. My son is only doing 2 things on the list, but he just turned 13 months. I think I might buy a potty so he can become familiar with the concept, but I see that it is too early to start formal training. I know I can't have a pro live with us 24/7 for advice, so it is nice to have access to one.

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