Baby Shower Etiquette: The Dos and Don'ts of Baby Showers

Baby Shower Etiquette: The Dos and Don'ts of Baby Showers

Simple guide to cover baby shower etiquette for invitations, gifts and registry.

Wondering about baby-shower etiquette? If you have no idea about who to assign to what, or what your baby shower responsibilities are, here’s a simple checklist to help you plan the perfect shower.

Baby shower host: Duties
While the current trend is for anyone to throw a baby shower, strict shower etiquette says a shower should be hosted by a friend or not-so-immediate relative, such as a cousin or aunt. The host will greet all guests personally, take their coats, indicate where presents should be deposited and offer them a beverage. This greeting process will not only please Miss Manners but will bring a warm, rosy glow to all your guests and get the party started off right.

Make them make friends. If your guests belong to different social circles, break the ice by making introductions or starting the baby shower with a game.

Baby Registries: The gift of giving. Guests have taken a lot of care in selecting their gifts, and part of the fun is watching the mom-to-be open presents. Proper etiquette suggests that gifts be opened toward the end of the shower to avoid the impression that presents are the primary purpose of the party.

Thank you notes
It’s still considered proper for the expectant mom to send thank you notes. Designate a gift recorder and note all the gifts and their givers. Help the expectant mom write personalized thank you notes, select cards and envelopes, and then get to licking and sticking.

A proper goodbye
If some guests need to leave early, walk them to the door thank him or her for coming. At the end of the shower, make sure to thank all your guests for coming and see them off at the door. Make sure the mom-to-be has an opportunity to get in her thanks and goodbyes too.

Keep these tips in mind and enjoy a perfectly civilized baby shower. As long as you’re handling decorum and etiquette, that’s one less thing for the mom to be to worry about.

Leave a comment *Mandatory text
I confirm I have written the entirety of the content and agree to the community guidelines and terms and conditions
  • Show comments

thank you notes

Bombay E 11/29/2015

So as the host should I help with thank you note process because I don't want to step on the father to be toes?

Not opening presents

Babs 11/25/2015

What if the mom & dad to be don't want to open presents at the shower.

Great Tips


I totally agree with this article!

great article


really helpful tips. a must read if you've never been to a shower before.


Cali 11/8/2015

Guests love getting a nice favor and thank you card.

Pregnancy Diet: Tips, Plans, and Menus for a Healthy Diet

Eating nutrient-packed foods when expecting is important for your growing body and can help support your baby’s development. Check out this list of menu must-haves.

Read more

Preparing for a Pregnancy: 3 Steps for Staying Healthy

You may not be planning to have another baby right now. But there are some simple, commonsense steps you can take to prepare for a pregnancy when you are ready. Find out what to do.

Read more