It's time to take that long-delayed family vacation. Or maybe you're gearing up to tackle multiple errands, with your children in tow. Either way, it's not uncommon to feel a little overwhelmed, and wonder if it would just be easier to stay home and stay put.
Parents often think that once they've mastered arranging their lives to include a child that it can't be that much harder to add more children. But the logistics of outings and travel with more than one child can be challenging, to put it mildly. Careful planning in advance, a little luck, a lot of patience, and a bag full of tricks can make travel possible and even pleasurable. If you consider the trip an adventure, your children will also. If you can make the trips fun, children are less likely to resist the confinement.
Allowing plenty of time for your trip is a key element in reducing stress. If your errand would typically take one hour with one child, plan for at least two hours for the same outing with two or more children. And by all means, never turn down offers of help for your outings. Those extra hands can truly make things easier.
Keep in mind that taking family trips or running simple errands are opportunities for learning: learning about the places you will visit and learning important social lessons such as sharing, taking turns, and patience. These trips involve time together as a family and can create wonderful family memories.
Follow these guidelines to help make your trip as enjoyable and stress-free as possible.
Consider your children's age and developmental stage. Toddlers, for example, have a short attention span, and they learn by touching everything. So, for trips to the grocery store you might take the older children with you, but leave the infant or toddler at home with one parent or a babysitter. If you do have to take all the children with you to the grocery store, make sure you have a list so you can get through the aisles more quickly. Bring along a toy for the youngest to keep him busy and less likely to grab things in the check out aisle. Never leave children alone in the car, even if you think you just need a few things and can return quickly. For longer trips with the entire family, younger children will need more toys or objects to distract them while the older children can spend more time with fewer activities.
Plan ahead. Even though spur of the moment activities/errands can be fun, changes in routine can be difficult for children, especially for toddlers and preschoolers. Let them know in advance and include them in the planning as much as possible. For longer trips, parents should pack for the youngest children but encourage older children to pack for themselves with suggestions given for appropriate clothing and toys. Try to pack as much as you can the day before leaving to minimize stress at the last minute. Encourage school-age children to learn about the places you plan to visit including looking at maps, investigating the weather forecast, etc.
Take precautions to prevent illness. Sitting in crowded airports or train stations or even just being closely confined in a car with stops at public places can be sources for many illnesses. Frequent, thorough hand-washing when possible or use of hand sanitizers can help minimize the spread of germs. Pacifiers, teething rings, or toys that fall on the floor or are handled by others should be washed or cleaned with hand sanitizers frequently.
Travel at night. For long car trips some families suggest driving through the night or leaving in the middle of the night hoping the kids will sleep a significant part of the way.
Don't forget the comfort item. Double check to make sure you've got the pacifier (take extras) or favorite blanket for the kids that need them.
Organize all the nonperishable "stuff" ahead of time. That includes clothes for each child as well as toys and books, stroller, diaper bag, backpacks, car seats, etc.
Encourage children to help select games, books, and toys to take along. You might include DVDs, CD's (sing-alongs are good), or books on tape; many of these can be borrowed from local libraries. Alternate activities during the trip to minimize the boredom.
Make travel boxes. If there is enough room in your vehicle, bring along a shoe box for each child filled with age-appropriate activity materials such as coloring or activity books with crayons or markers, stickers, paper dolls, etc. Do not allow scissors in the car, however, as they could be dangerous if there is a sudden stop.
Include some easy learning games or activities. Ask younger children what colors they see or to count the trucks. Older children may like to draw a picture of what they see along the way.
Take plenty of healthy snacks and drinks and some plastic utensils. This saves time and money and can minimize fighting about where and when to stop for food. Allow the kids to help with selections. Try to make an eating plan so trips do not become an excuse for all-day eating.
Make frequent stops. Use those breaks for visiting restrooms and also for stretching those legs and expending some energy. Even 10 to 15 minutes of running, throwing a ball around, or jumping rope can make the next few hours tolerable. Depending on your route, you might look ahead and find a state park along the way and take a short hike or find a playground.
Drive safely. Always use seat belts and keep the infants/children properly restrained in car seats or booster seats. Driving can be stressful, and you may need to pull over if the noise/fighting/fatigue affects driving safety.