Creating family routines and rituals

Creating family routines and rituals

How daily rituals help our kids feel secure and help them learn about order. Holiday traditions too, are treasured by our preschoolers. Get more details on rituals.

Kids thrive on the kind of regularity and predictability that seems boring to adults. Day-in and day-out routines make them feel secure and help them learn about order. That's why simple rituals such as singing a song before bed become so pivotal for preschoolers. If yours is a busy family with a lot of unexpected events and hectic schedules, these fixed points may even be more critical for both you and your child.

Holidays are especially important times to develop regular family rituals. Eating the same foods, using the same special dishes and decorations, and experiencing the same events over and over help kids understand their origins, values, and identities.

Get your child involved in the preparations, and talk about the events ahead of time. Show your preschooler pictures of the same event happening another time, or of similar events that took place when you were a child. Although your child won't get all of the connections at this age, he's building a sense of himself as a member of a family and a tradition.

If you're uncomfortable with your own family's traditions, make up new ones. Later on you'll hear your kids say, "In our family we've always done..." as if your new rituals go back 10 generations!

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Very true

Maddyboys 10/7/2015

I will remember my childhood memories forever, and I want to make sure my kids do too!

Great read


Very true. Rituals are very important to small children.



Great article.



good point....especially to keep values and traditions. as long as it doesn't become forced or insisted upon them--it works.



This was very useful information. Schedules can be so busy around the holidays, so trying to keep some rituals and routines the same can be very helpful.

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