Creating Family Routines and Rituals

Creating Family Routines and Rituals

Kids thrive on the kind of regularity and predictability that seems boring to adults. Day-in and day-out routines make them feel secure and help them learn about order. That's why simple rituals such as singing a song before bed become so pivotal for toddlers and preschoolers. If yours is a busy family with a lot of unexpected events and hectic schedules, these fixed points may even be more critical for both you and your child.

Holidays are especially important times to develop regular family rituals. Eating the same foods, using the same special dishes and decorations, and experiencing the same events over and over help kids understand their origins, values, and identities.

Get your child involved in the preparations, and talk about the events ahead of time. Show your preschooler pictures of the same event happening another time, or of similar events that took place when you were a child. Although your child won't get all of the connections at this age, he's building a sense of himself as a member of a family and a tradition.

If you're uncomfortable with your own family's traditions, make up new ones. Later on you'll hear your kids say, "In our family we've always done..." as if your new rituals go back 10 generations!


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Trying to make a routine

Jenn 5/10/2016
New mother to a 3 month old, trying to figure out what routine works best of us so that he can adjust to bedtime faster.

Routines are Key

alesia 5/10/2016
Routines are key in a strong family and healthy children! I feel like keep to as strict a schedule as possible is best for everyone in the family,but you have to have the ability to be flexible also.


Tookie 4/28/2016
I am all about routine. We are making new traditions also!


Great ideas!

Encouraging article

As someone who has 3 children who thrive on routines, this article was really encouraging and affirming!