Toddler Activities: Toddler games and types of play

Toddler Activities: Toddler games and types of play

When toddlers play they learn to understand how the world works, who they are, and what they can and cannot do. How do they do this in their different stages of development?

Play is the work of childhood. It's the laboratory in which children figure out how the world works, who they are, who they might be, and what they can andcannot do.

Not all play is the same, either in its style or its effect. Watch closely some of the different types of play your child engages in and you'll see how sheis taking on the world.

Symbolic Play
To an infant or a young toddler, a block is a block. If she has more than one, she might stack them or pull them apart. But once she's about 2 years old,she can start using blocks for much more. In her eyes they can become a house, a car, or anything else she wants.

Toys become symbols for other objects.Your child may try to feed her doll as if it were another baby. If you look carefully, you may see that she sometimes holds her doll or teddy bear the sameway you hold her.

This type of symbolic representation shows you how sophisticated her brain is becoming. It also allows her to prepare for or work through potentiallyfrightening events. For example, a savvy pediatrician who needs to check your child's ears for infection may begin by looking in the ears of the doll shebrought with her to the exam. That allows the toddler to anticipate what will happen to her and helps remove her anxieties.

Parallel Play
Toddlers need playmates, yet they play with them quite differently from the way older children play together.Place two 18-month-olds with similar toys near each other in the same room, and you'll note that they don't seem to pay much attention to each other.

But look more closely, and you'll notice that if one picks up a truck, the other is likely to do the same. If the first child looks at that truck and says,"No" (a toddler's favorite word), the second is likely to imitate him and yell, "No!" as well. If the toddlers are old enough to have more advanced verbalskills, you might overhear them having what sounds like a conversation that doesn't make sense. "Puppy ride car." "That's a big truck!" "Is puppy hungry?""My truck. Vroom, vroom!"

This is an example of parallel play.Unlike older children, who interact and communicate directly, toddlers play in parallel. While they may appear to be playing independently, kids thisage are keeping an eye on each other's behavior.Parallel play is often a first step in forming strong social relationships outside of the family. Parallel playmates are your child's first friends.

Imaginary Play

Among young children, the line between fantasy and reality is delightfully fuzzy. An older toddler or a preschooler can fight dragons or fly to the moon,all without leaving his bedroom. If you want to build a child this age a fort, all you need are two chairs and a blanket to drape over them.Pretend play serves many purposes and pushes the boundaries of play. It allows your child to explore new ideas and experience life from a differentperspective.

Starting at around age 3,pretend play often expands to include the creation of imaginary companions. These pretend friends often do things that the child cannot or dares not.A pretend buddy may be highly demanding or speak rudely to adults and older children. He may have magical powers or tremendous strength or wisdom. This isa way for a child to experience life from a different perspective and to toy with the notion of power. It's also a way to fix the blame on someone elsewhen the child spills juice on the Persian carpet.

While the appearance of an imaginary companion sometimes worries parents, it should not. In fact, it should be celebrated.Research by Dr. Jerome Singer at Yale University found that preschoolers who had imaginary companions also tended to have greater imaginations and biggervocabularies than their peers who did not. In addition, they were generally happier and got along better with classmates. Interestingly, quite a few ofthose children didn't tell their parents about their imaginary companions.

Collaborative Play
Preschoolers progress from solitary and parallel play to collaborative play. It's at this stage that your child learns to masterimportant new social skills, such as sharing, taking turns, obeying rules, and negotiating. These are all very difficult behaviors for a young child tolearn.After all, at this age, your child believes she is the center of the universe!

Sharing.

  • When a preschooler wants something, the thought of giving it up to someone else is almost unbearable.
  • Learning to share is made even more complex by the confusing ways in which we use the word share. (If we ask a child to share her toys, she'll get them back in a short while, but if we ask her to share her cookies, she never gets them back!)
  • Preschoolers have an easier time sharing if they've already spent a lot of time playing games in which they give something to a parent and then get it back again.

Taking turns.

  • A preschooler's desires are urgent and immediate. When she wants something, she wants it NOW!
  • Taking turns requires that she delay gratification and imagine what it's like being the other children who are playing.
  • The empathy she has already learned at home and during parallel play will help.

Obeying rules.

  • All young children want to win the games they play. Most will do whatever they can to win, even if they have to cheat a bit.
  • While we adults may indulge them, their peers will not, resulting in meaningful (and tough) lessons on the importance of following rules.

Negotiating.

  • Who gets to go first? How do you decide which game to play? Who gets to be the sheriff and who will be the deputy?
  • Collaborative play requires your child to give as well as take, to compromise on what he wants -- a hard thing to accept when you're the center of the universe.

Once your child can negotiate, share, take turns, and follow rules, he will be well on his way to navigating the school playground, the high school dance,the college dormitory, and the corporate boardroom.

So watch your child when he plays. You'll gain tremendous insights into not only his social development but his thinking abilities as well. Besides, it's alot of fun.

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Awesome

8/31/2015

Great Read with awesome tips for teaching your toddler

Great read

8/26/2015

Play time is so important. Thank you for this article!

Thank you

8/25/2015

Thank you for this article. It helps understand my youngest girls and how they operate and what I can do to help them.

Great article

8/20/2015

Loved reading about the toddler point of view. We recently started a group class and I can see it will be a great experience.

This is the good part

8/18/2015

I love watching my little guy interact with other kids. He lights up in a way he just doesn't when playing by himself. Both are important though.

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