Expectant Fathers: Preparing for Parenthood

Although big changes in an expectant mom are obvious, a father also goes through a lot as he waits for the new arrival. It's a time of adjustment as hechanges his self-image and his relationship with his wife and other children to make room for another.

New Roles, New Feelings
Some dads change their appearance, such as by growing a beard; others take a second job to be sure they can support their growing family. Still others fixup the house or take on a new project. All will be thinking about their own fathers and wondering whether they will be the same or different. Most feelpretty anxious, though some can have a hard time showing it. These stirred-up feelings create the energy to make the adjustment, attach to the baby, andbecome the father she'll need. So it's healthy to worry.

A father is a very important person in a child's life, starting before the child is born. Many fathers "play" with their babies before birth by talking andsinging to them or by gently massaging the mother's abdomen. The baby will recognize a father's voice at birth if he's been this close.

Babies with involved fathers show all sorts of positive benefits. Both boys and girls have an easier time being born, maintain a better self-image as theygrow, and do better in school if Dad stays involved.

You Got This, Dad!
Fathers offer babies a kind of interaction that is not the same as what they get from their mother. By 4 weeks of age a baby reacts uniquely to the sightof her father. She hunches forward and her face gets a look of eager anticipation; eyebrows up, mouth open, eyes bright. She is ready to play. The games,the stories, the greetings, and the giggles they share are quite distinct from those of a mom and baby.

Fathers and mothers often have special styles of parenting. They give a child different views of life and bring different skills to the job. Both geton-the-job training by just doing it — taking care of the baby in their own style, learning from their mistakes. Each parent needs time to try out thesenew skills.

Along with attending childbirth classes and doing a little reading, dads can answer these questions as a way to begin thinking about this fathering thing:

    • How do you play with or soothe your baby in the womb? How does she react? Do you have a special song for her?
    • How involved in the baby's physical care do you want to be? What care-taking tasks do you want to do? When will you do these?
    • What things about your own father do you want to emulate? What things do you want to do differently?
    • Have you changed your appearance? What's your own image of a good father?
    • Will your baby have your name, wear your baby clothes, play with your old toys? Or do you want to make a fresh start?

Another cool part of becoming a father soon is that you and mom will be picking a baby name together. Even though there are so many factors to consider when choosing names, the Pampers Baby Name Generator makes it easier to narrow down your options until you land on the perfect one.

Fathers offer their babies a different kind of connection. As a father, the more you play, learn, and interact with your baby, the closer you will be toyour new daughter or son.

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